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The One Book Review Every Author Wants

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The December 6 question: Book reviews are for the readers. When you leave a book review, do you review for the Reader or the Author? Is it about what you liked and enjoyed about your reading experience, or do you critique the author?

The One Book Review Every Author Wants

In my opinion, book reviews are for readers.

Ideally, the reviews should be about the writing: is the plot good, are the characters likable? Is it a book you enjoyed?

If you didn’t enjoy it, what in particular didn’t you like about it? How it ended? That words unknown to you were used? That there were grammar and punctuation errors on every page?

What’s sad is when a reviewer leaves a 1 star and states that the package arrived torn and the book destroyed. That review has nothing to do with the writing and everything to do with the shipping, of which the author has no control or involvement. So why penalize the author with that type of review?

I may read a book that isn’t my cup of tea but that doesn’t mean the writing isn’t any good. In most cases, the writing is incredible; it’s just that I’m becoming bored because as a writer, I know how it’s going to end. So, I skip to the last chapter and read it. Yup, sure enough. I want to read a book that stirs my emotions or has me guessing as to its outcome.

The thing is, I would never leave a bad review because of my own biases. I leave a review because the writing is good, giving it a good score, putting my bias aside. I know many other readers would enjoy it.

I’ll promote good writing every time. Reviews are subjective and each review is just one person’s opinion, that person’s opinion.

I’ve learned if one friend recommends a book, I probably won’t read it. Her likes and mine aren’t the same. However, if another friend recommends a book, I’ll check it out; she and I are reading similar genres and get excited about the same type of book—the psychological thriller.

The one review that can’t be bought is the word-of-mouth review. When your friend excitedly calls you and asks: Have you read XYZ yet? OMG, I couldn’t put it down. I was up until 3 a.m. last night finishing it!

The last books I read like that were The Martian by Andy Wier, Verity by Colleen Hoover, and Never Lie by Frieda McFadden. These are books I’d like to write; they’re intense and page-turners! They’re the standard I’d like to achieve and books that I highly recommend word-of-mouth.

For some fun reading, to clear my reading palette from the thriller intensity, I enjoy reading Amish romances by Mindy Steel and Sarah Price whose books are based on Jane Austen’s books and a few fairy tales.

What were your last few page-turner books?

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Dr. Diana Stout appreciates her readers and fans. One day she hopes to write a book that generates so much word-of-mouth advertising, thus motivating sales that she finally hits the milestone of earning the title of best-selling author and cross that goal off her bucket list.

Learn more about Dr. Stout at her website, Sharpened Pencils Productions.

Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!

Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writers. This group is all about connecting!

4 Reasons Why I Participate in NaNoWriMo

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The November 1 question: November is National Novel Writing Month. Have you ever participated? If not, why not?

4 Reasons Why I Participate in NaNoWriMo

I’ve been a participant in November’s National Novel Writing Month since 2013, although not in 2014. All total, I have participated for nine years, ten if we add next month’s event.

During eight of those years, I worked on writing and then later editing my Laurel Ridge romance series of seven stories. It was during 2016’s NaNoWriMo, after the spring publication of the first story, that I discovered I had a timeline nightmare with the other six stories. I spent the rest of 2016 and a good part of 2017 mapping out the remaining six stories.

Once I had the timeline properly mapped out, I spent 2017-2022 writing first drafts and then editing them, publishing #2, #3, and #4 in 2022, and #5, #6, and #7 earlier this year. All were first published as eBooks, and just last month, I published the bundled eBook version and print book.

During that five-year period, I published six additional books consisting of a cookbook, two screenplays, a nonfiction how-to book, and reprinted two romances. I was editing the novellas in between these other books.

Besides the November event, I attended Camp NaNoWriMo in April and July 2022.

  • I participate every year and am adding other monthly camps because:
  • It creates accountability.
  • I write faster with a goal and deadlines.
  • I get to buddy up with other writers.
  • I like to look back over past years’ goals that are now published.

Since 2013, this will be the first time I won’t be working on a romance. This time I’m working on a how-to plotting book/workbook for writers. For now, the title is a secret; I don’t want to give too much away. Not yet.

My goal is to finish the book this year, hopefully publishing it this year. Even though it’s not a big book, I’m hoping it’ll make a big impact and be helpful to writers who struggle with sagging middles and who’d like to write faster.

By the time you read this, November’s NaNoWriMo will have started. I can’t wait.

Are you joining us this year? Want to become a buddy with me? I’m listed by my name.

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Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!

Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writers. This group is all about connecting!

How to Stay Positive

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Instead of answering this month’s question, which is an AI question, I queried a writer friend and asked, What would you most like to read about in a blog right now? Her response was, “Staying Positive.”

How to Stay Positive

As writers, when the world’s toxicity seeps into our homes, our thoughts, and feelings, writing can become more difficult. It’s harder to concentrate, to focus.

So, what can you do to stay more positive?

  • Take a shower. Let the toxicity go down the drain!
  • Create a playlist that lifts your spirits and matches the mood of your current work in progress and play it when writing.
  • Take a walk in nature. Listen to the sounds, become one with nature.
  • List things you’re grateful for every day.
  • Start a positivity diary. List of all the good things that have ever happened in your life. Keep that list handy and keep adding to it. Refer to it as needed.
  • Don’t drink. Alcohol is a depressant.
  • Journal. Write your feelings out on paper. It’s about opening the dam of feelings and thoughts, venting on paper. Afterward, burn it, shred it, or tear into tiny pieces and flush down the toilet. Or, save it, and give those feelings to a character!
  • Stop worrying—99% of what we worry about never comes to pass.
  • When tired, take a nap or take a break.
  • Do something different.
  • Find a way to laugh. Start saving funny videos. Follow those people! Watch a comedy series or a funny movie.
  • Do a search for flash mob dances or orchestras on social media.
  • Dance! Alone for the length of a song.
  • Blow up an imaginary balloon, blowing your feelings, thoughts, and problems into the balloon. Then, release it to the Universe. Imagine yourself outside, seeing it rise above the houses and disappear into the clouds.
  • Perform some self-talk.
  • Plant something. Get your hands into the soil.
  • Go to a playground and swing or play in the sandbox.
  • Spend time with people who make you laugh, with whom you feel good about yourself when you leave their company.
  • Put positive affirmations on your bathroom mirror, at your desk, or in other places that you frequent and will see often. Change them up as needed.
  • Give someone a compliment.
  • Don’t take things personally.
  • Drive a new route home.
  • Buy yourself some flowers.
  • Do something differently. Drive a different route, go into an unknown store.
  • Eat out alone with a book. Enjoy your own company.
  • List goals you want to achieve. Break down a goal into manageable chunks—something you can do in 10 or 15 minutes. As you achieve them, cross them off!
  • Remove the triggers!

One of the best things I did to stay positive was to remove anything in my home that triggered me, immediately taking me back to a toxic event or conversation, which I started reliving, noticing my feelings and thoughts became a downward toxic spiral. Even though I had reconciled or had moved past it! Those triggers included clothing, knickknacks, furniture, and especially photographs.

Staying positive requires action on your part.

We are what we say, what we think, and what we DO!

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Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!

Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writers. This group is all about connecting!

Wow, Do I Have a Story to Tell You!

Last night, I met with an agent online and chatted about a major, new idea I’m working on.

I left the meeting last night with goosebumps.

I went to bed not a hundred percent confident which of my dozen projects I should concentrate on next, as I’m in the process of publishing the last book in my Laurel Ridge romance series this weekend, and which will get finished once I post this blog.

Plus, I have a historical gothic romance coming out in an anthology this October, which earmarks my turn into a new genre, writing Gothics, much like Verity by Colleen Hoover, My Cousin Rachel by Daphne du Maurier, and other gothic writers: Phyllis A Whitney, Mary Stewart, and Victoria Holt.

And then, I woke up and received two signs from the other side of the veil.

Click here to read the entire story about what I was told to do!

A Writing Career Path: Finding the Joy

While writing a book wasn’t the start of my writing career, I do remember when I decided to write a book and how the excitement of possibilities appealed to me.

At the time, I was reading a book a day—mostly romances. Those slim, Silhouette and Harlequin romance books that had new titles every month. The books read fast and left me feeling good and filled with hope.

How hard could it be to write them?

Actually, it was way harder than I had imagined. While it looks easy, it really isn’t. It took me a year and a half to write that first book. Selling it was another matter altogether.

It took writing five books to learn about determination, needing a plan (more like an outline), diligence, and sheer grit. Along with agony and disappointment.

I was writing the first few books in an era where there were no computers, only typewriters. Where you had to have an agent in order to submit your manuscript to the publisher. And, where all manuscripts were mailed via USPS, where it could take months or a year to hear back from the agent, let alone the publisher.

Thankfully, the computer came into being amid writing those books. Rewriting became easier. Not much else became easier, though.

Early in my career, I was successful in writing short nonfiction via a newspaper column and then magazine articles. Writing nonfiction, whether creative nonfiction, academic, or technical came easy and still does. I was published in nonfiction within a couple years.

Writing fiction, however, was much harder and required a lot of trial and error. I wrote piles of romance short stories before attempting my first novel.

I remember taking one of those Harlequin books and wrapping it using the brown paper from a paper bag like we used to do with school textbooks, and I put my book’s title on the cover along with my name. I planted that book in front of my typewriter.

I had a goal.

It would take 12 years before I would publish my first book. I nearly gave up in the 10th year. Why? I had sworn that if I hadn’t published a book by the time I was 40, I’d stop trying. When I turned 40, I was too close to quit.

In fact, one author friend said, “Diana, it’s like your heels are on the edge of the cliff and yet you don’t fall off the cliff. I don’t get why you aren’t published.” My heels had been on that cliff for over seven years.

I didn’t get it either. I’d had two agents come and go, I placed in contests, and every editor said they loved my writing, but…

At 42, it took my being in the right place at the right time to connect with an editor whose publication house was entering the romance genre for me to become a published author. My book was their introduction into the field and they hyped that book heavily.

Two more books published with another house followed quickly, with a sale of a fourth book to yet another house.

Since then, it’s been a fun-filled journey of writing—screenplays, stage plays, poetry, academic writing, a dissertation, more contests, more awards, blogging, and becoming an indie publisher where I’ve now published 14 books, with plans for several more publications this year; Tangled Passions, the fifth book in a series of seven was published on Valentine’s Day.

My writing career has endured the highs and the lows for over fifty years, and finally, after much experimentation and meeting various challenges, I’m finding the genres where my writing joy truly thrives.

Looking back, I’m grateful for the entire journey. It’s been quite the process where the joys outweighed the disappointments. Even the frustrations were short-lived.

May everyone experience such joy.

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This year, Dr. Stout expects to publish the last two romance novellas in the Laurel Ridge Novella series, a writer’s resource book, a historical Gothic romance for an anthology, along with a comedy screenplay. Additionally, she’s plotting a Gothic novel and finishing up several other writer resource books. In June, she’ll be teaching a two-week Master Class, “Using (& Avoiding) Procrastination.” To learn more, click here. If interested, sign up soon! Class is limited to 25.

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Purpose of The Insecure Writer’s Group: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds. Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group Day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writer – aim for a dozen new people each time – and return comments. This group is all about connecting.

Cover Adventures: Creating Covers

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This month’s question for February 1 is: If you are an Indie author, do you make your own covers or purchase them? If you publish trad, how much input do you have about what goes on your cover?

Cover Adventures: Creating Covers

My first three books were traditionally published in the 1990s with two different publishers.

While I wasn’t thrilled with the cover of my first book, The Man on the Romance Cover (’93), at least the faces matched the magazine pictures I had sent them, providing a sense of how I saw the characters.

With the second and third books, Tomorrow’s Wishes (’94) and New Beginnings (’96) published by Avalon Books, who sold books chiefly to libraries, I had no say in the covers and wasn’t consulted. I mailed them the manuscript each time, and then one day a box of books would appear on my doorstep.

When I began to write fulltime—my dream come true—and became an indie author/publisher, I already had the rights back from those first three published books, so I updated the books’ text, retitled them, and created new covers, using my artistic background and formatting education.

My designs were okay but needed something more. I found a cover designer, loving her work. She took my designs and improved them, then created Grendel’s Mother from just an idea. I provided the stock photos for my seven Laurel Ridge novella covers, along with three other books. She did a fantastic job with all the covers and was a joy to work with. She left the business upon the birth of her second child.

A designer from a writer’s group I recently joined introduced herself with a redo cover of that nonfiction Fire book—a cover that was gorgeous, but the design didn’t fit my overall series design. Quickly, through a Zoom meeting, we became friends and I mentioned that I needed a cover for my Christmas story screenplay that I was publishing, Charlie’s Christmas Carole. She’s an absolute delight to work with, so I’ll be using her for future books.

With the help of a good friend, we redid Love’s New Beginnings, and then she helped me create the template for my non-fiction, Finding Your Fire & Keeping It Hot, which is the first in a series of books that writers will find helpful. I’ll be creating the other covers now that I have the template

With the anthology, Lost and Found that I edited and was a contributing author, the lead author and I designed that book’s front cover, which then I finished the spine and the back.

As an indie author/publisher, all of my covers have been a collaboration, where I find the main stock photo, relay my idea for additions, and then the designer takes what I’ve presented and runs with it, adding their spin, which is always perfect.

I enjoy seeing my visions come to life, and it allows me a bit of artistry playtime now that I’m not painting or sketching anymore. I put that hobby aside in favor of writing decades ago because I saw writing as a career, wanting to devote the bulk of my time to it.

Today, I would have trouble handing over total design of my covers to a publisher, even one of the big five publishers. I would always want to have a voice, even if only a small one.

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Purpose of The Insecure Writer’s Group: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds.

Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group Day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writer – aim for a dozen new people each time – and return comments. This group is all about connecting.

The awesome co-hosts for the February 1 posting of the IWSG are Jacqui Murray, Ronel Janse van Vuuren, Pat Garcia, and Gwen Gardner!

October’s Glory

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The question for this month is: What do you consider the best characteristics of your favorite genre?

Because I have a number of favorite genres, that question becomes long in answering. Instead, I’m choosing to write about my favorite month of the year: October.

October’s Glory

As much as I had to see summer end because it means having to shut the windows and doors and blocking the sounds of nature—mostly the birds—I am absolutely thrilled when October arrives. Here are the many reasons why I love it so.

My favorite season, fall, is finally here!

The vibrant and picture-worth colors start arriving. Reds, orange, yellow, lots of various greens and browns, where the trees become a fashion parade of brilliance. Breathtaking around every corner and at every glance. If only those colors could last longer than just a couple weeks.

The air becomes crisp, requiring a light jacket in the morning and evenings. If the temps do warm up a bit, there’s a cool undertone just waiting for the warmer temp to slip up so that it can sneak in again.

The food – Candy corn! Pumpkin pie, the bounty of vegetables from the garden, casseroles, soups, chili!

Cuddling up under a blanket.

SWEATERS! Need I say more?

And, it’s my birthday month. What better way than to celebrate my favorite month, my favorite season, right?

How about you? Do you enjoy October?

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Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds.

Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writer – aim for a dozen new people each time – and return comments. This group is all about connecting.

Writing to Market or Writing From the Heart

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The question for this month is: When you set out to write a story, do you try to be more original or do you try to give readers what they want?

Writing to Market or Writing From the Heart

My answer to this month’s question is both, depending on the project.

Grendel’s Mother was born from the heart. I gave a female who had no voice in Beowulf—a woman made into a monster—a voice. It was my first book published as an indie publisher.

Two romances, traditionally published in the 90s—were written to market, though my heart was in their locations.

Tomorrow’s Wish for Love, originally published as Tomorrow’s Wishes, is a sweet romance written specifically for Avalon Books who published only to libraries. This book takes place in Grady County, Georgia where I lived for nine years.

Love’s New Beginnings, originally published as New Beginnings, is likewise a sweet romance written for Avalon Books. This book takes place in Calhoun County, Michigan where I was raised and lived currently.

Once I got the rights back, I retitled, revised, and updated them, and gave each a new cover.

Determined Hearts was a book written from my heart, though I had been considering its possible market. It was my second book ever written and it became my first book traditionally sold, published as The Man on the Romance Cover. Once I had the rights back, like the other two romances, I revamped the title, cover, and updated the content.

My cookbook, The Super Simple Easy Basic Cookbook, was born of my lifetime collection of recipes. The bonus of publishing it? Now everyone else had easy access to my recipes…well, for a price.

David & Goliath was truly born of my heart. It’s a book in screenplay format and is a suspense thriller, a category I’m returning to. D&G was one of three scripts I wrote that year.

Miss Mississippi was a script I plotted to market, having researched that I discovered 7 of the top 10 movies—comedies—that year had men in dresses, but then the writing totally came from the heart. That’s the script I optioned and it still gets interest, though now it needs a massive rewrite.

Finding Your Fire & Keeping It Hot was born both of my heart and written to market. The topic is one I talk a lot about: how to find your passion, your purpose, how Universal Laws operate, and the book is based on my journey of these topics. I’ve had people telling me I needed to write the book, so I finally did.

With students, teachers, and other writers telling me that I needed to write my plagiarism how-not-to book, and my grammar and punctuation book, along with other writing craft topics I’ve taught over the years, these will be upcoming non-fiction how-to books…written from the heart but with the consideration to market.

Writing to market is okay, but writing from the heart is the best because I’m fully engaged and interested as much as the readers will be once I publish the book.

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Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds.

Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writer – aim for a dozen new people each time – and return comments. This group is all about connecting.

Living in Fiction

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The question for this month is: If you could live in any book world, which one would you choose?

Living in Fiction

I had to really think about this month’s question. I considered the time periods of movies, made from books, that I repeatedly watch like Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice, Persuasion, Sense and Sensibility, and others of that era. While I love the stories, I’m not sure I’d like the restrictions women lived under. In some instances, they couldn’t even marry for love.

While I enjoy reading about women in medieval times, those living conditions were even worse! And, medical care was horrible back then. I would have died in childbirth.

I enjoy watching The Martian every time it’s on TV, a movie made from Andy Wier’s book by the same title. A book that was a page-turner for me. A book I read in one sitting. But again, it’s not a world I want to live in.

In further consideration of which world, my gaze landed on my covers that are on the wall opposite my desk. As I’ve been finishing Arrested Pleasures, the #3 story in the Laurel Ridge Novella series, and having read the story five times in June as I proofed it, laughing out loud every time at the same spots, I considered their world.

Located in the Deep South—an area I loved when living there—and a modern-day, contemporary time period, I can easily see myself in their world. Additionally, as I’ve been getting to know these 7 couples, each pair represented with their own story, I’ve come to not only like them but to enjoy their company. Yup, you heard me right.

They have become as real as my actual friends. They’re funny, smart, and live simply but with purpose. These 7 couples and other secondary characters have been traveling with me from room to room and journey with me in the car, shopping with me, too. They’re entertaining, engaging, caring people who I’m going to sadly miss once the series is finished.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if they came to life in a televised series?

I can only dream…and manifest.

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Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds. Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writer – aim for a dozen new people each time – and return comments. This group is all about connecting.

The Struggle for a Decision

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The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day with a purpose to share and encourage. Writers are offered a question to answer each month or to write a block of their own.

This month’s question – Have you ever been conflicted about writing a story or adding a scene to a story? How did you decide to write it or not?

The Struggle for a Decision

My biggest writing conflict occurred over non-fictional material. From the start of my writing career, I wanted to help other writers.

Back then, the problem was that I was young, didn’t have any writing education other than a journalism class, and most of my publications—mostly nonfiction—appeared in magazines.

Fast forward to where I traditionally published several books, to where the internet happened and exploded with teaching opportunities, to where a local college asked me to teach writing craft classes, to where I got the education I had craved and was able to combine a career with my passion of writing, where I taught university-level composition classes.

And then, upon retirement, I became an indie publisher, finally able to work on and produce some of the many projects I had started so long ago. (And am still continuing that work!)

After a couple years, though, I found myself in conflict. I wanted to teach creative writing classes again. Or, should I just write the classes up as short how-to books?

In the end, I’m doing both. The decision was made.

I just finished teaching a Time Management for Writers class and will be teaching a master class from the same website this August based on the book I just published: Finding Your Fire & Keeping It Hot: Discovering Your Why, Your Passion, Your Purpose in Life. (Students will receive a free copy. Other class details TBA.)

This book is the first of my how-to series and while the books address writing issues, some of the topics apply to non-writers as well. This first book is an excellent resource for anyone wanting to find and reach their life’s dream based on a passion, a fire within.

As a new release, the first book in a series that I dreamed about writing for a long time, and which is now tied to a two-week class by the same title, I couldn’t be more excited!

NEW RELEASE!!!!!